That which does not kill me makes me stronger. Friedrich Nietzsche
Yes, troubles come in all shapes and sizes and often at the most unexpected moments. While the normal troubles of illness and niggling interpersonal problems can be relatively easily handled, we are nearly always stressed out by troubles that are of a much larger proportion. Since none of us like any form of disturbance in an otherwise tranquil life, we also tend to exaggerate our troubles on very many occasions and make it look like a terrible cross to carry. On the other hand there are a few unfortunate people who by a strange quirk of fate, are destined to be in a vice like grip of unending troubles and one must doff our hat to these individuals who still manage to retain their sanity and embrace life with regret perhaps but not rancor.
The real trouble starts when one gives up battling the troubles that are both inevitable and unpredictable. Of course there are times when we invite trouble by our own stupidity, greed, ill temper or some similar vice or irrational behavior. In such cases, one must be ready to faces the consequences and invariably such troubles are anticipated and appropriately managed. How does one battle something like a debilitating disease, an accident that seriously impairs the person, the sudden and unexpected death of someone his/ her prime? Whilst people react in various ways to such sudden upheavals in their life, the most important aspect of the response is to accept the troubles as a reality and not to sweep it under the carpet of daily living. When one is not reconciled to the reality of the existence of the problem, one is prone to live in denial and then life becomes complicated since no proof will help mitigate the problem or resolve it.
Some people are able to quickly adjust to the reality of the changed circumstances that the troubles have unwittingly foisted on them. Such people will immediately plan to work out both short term and long term strategies with minimum emotional baggage as possible. They would also attempt to ensure that those around them particularly their loved ones are comforted and put at ease despite their own mental turmoil. Those who cannot accept the reality, have a very tough time even dwelling on their troubles. They could ascribe motives right from their cursed fate, to some terrible past life crimes or to the sins of their forefathers for their fate. Reality won’t change with these thoughts but if one cannot adjust to the reality, they are quickly engulfed by the troubles. Strangely enough most people in trouble suddenly turn more religious and spiritual irrespective of their acceptance of their troubles or not.
Like fire that toughens the steel that is tempered by it, troubles if seen in the right perspective, actually helps one to rediscover the reality of who one is and find hidden reserves and new strengths. For one, almost all of us in trouble suddenly make the painful discovery of who their real friends are. Whilst some come up with the shocking realization that those intimate friends were mere fair weather friends, others from whom we keep our distance surprisingly turned out to be more understanding and helpful. Our perceptions about our friends that were once distorted are crystal clear now. If we objectively analyze the reality post the changed reality, one can get a sense of urgency, a dose of being pragmatic and discover a fighting spirit that was never tested before but which now races to the forefront. Finally it also dawns on us that the troubles never can kill the spirit; it can sap the energy, confound the mind and kills the body but the spirit lives on: forever!
Remember: “Trouble brings experience, and experience brings wisdom
Although these links have been given in some other posts, it is highly recommended that we visit these links once again to help us understand our troubles in the right perspective.
- Look at this video on the life of Nick Vujicic the man who was born with No Arms & No Legs http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6F8zK57Wa0A
- Read the article Airborne to Chair borne by the Paraplegic Air force Officer M.P.Anil Kumar whose life changed overnight in a tragic accident. http://pallavees.blogspot.com/2006/03/airborne-to-chairborne.html
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